It is said that “the family is the basis of society” and there is truth in this. A society composed of families without values and without love will be a sick society without a solid foundation. Healthy families in which their members love, respect, and care for each other will contribute to the growth and stability of where they live.
The family as a unit of society is very important to God, in fact, the idea came from Him. God could have created us to live in isolation, without needing each other. But it was not like that. We need each other not only for the continuation of the human race but to support, build and bless the place where God has placed us.
Let’s look at some Bible verses that talk about the family and how we should relate within the family environment.
1. The origin of the family
And God created the human being in His image; Men and Women were created in the image of God. God created them, and blessed them with these words: «Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and submit it; they dominate the fish of the sea and the birds of the sky, and all the reptiles that crawl on the ground.»
(Genesis 1: 27-28)
God created man and woman and blessed them, giving them a mission composed of two parts. First, multiply, be fruitful and fill the earth with children. We see that without the sexual unity of man and woman there would be no continuity. The second part of the mission was to subdue the land, care for it, cultivate it, and dominate the animals.
Human beings were created in the image of God and we have a purpose assigned by Him. We are called to contribute in the place where we are. Not only that, unlike animals, humans have a body, a soul and a spirit. It gives us the ability to have a relationship of friendship with God, our source of love and wisdom.
2. Unity in marriage
Every new marriage must give priority to their union and live according to God’s commands. Although we still belong to the family in which we grew up, when we got married we became one with our spouse and formed a new family. We will make our decisions together before God and seek his will for our future and common good.
3. The spiritual life of the family
Record in your heart these words that I am sending you today. Stimulate them continually to your children. Tell them about when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
(Deuteronomy 6: 6-7)
Parents must fill their hearts and minds with the word of God and then teach it to their children. Your loving and constant example living in accordance with God’s commands will inspire and bless you. The family that loves God naturally, shares what God does in His daily life and how He intervenes in day-to-day problems.
4. Praise God together
Tribute to the Lord, families of peoples, pay glory and power to the Lord; pay to the Lord the glory that corresponds to His name; present before him with offerings, worship the Lord in his beautiful sanctuary.
(1 Chronicles 16: 28-29)
There is a special bond in families that worship God together. It is a great joy to be able to go to the temple together to give glory to God for all the blessings He gives us daily.
The family that is united not only by blood ties but also in the spiritual area will enjoy a deeper and more real relationship. Its members will be united in spirit receiving the blessings that God grants to all those who serve Him.
5. The blessing of the children
The children that God gives us are part of the blessing that He grants us. We should not see them as an economic burden or a pressure on us. Quite the opposite! We have to love them and educate them, teach them to be good citizens and share with them all the good things that God has given us.
6. Instruct children well
He instructs the child in the right way, and so even in his old age the grown up child will not abandon him.
(Proverbs 22: 6)
Parents should teach their children values, how to behave in an acceptable and respectful way with everyone. It is also the parents’ responsibility to instruct their children in the truth of the gospel, to teach them what it means to love and follow Jesus. A good spiritual foundation will help them face the challenges that life presents to them.
Everything that children learn during their childhood will shape them for the rest of their lives. Let us be responsible parents who love and instruct their children in the way of the Lord.
7. Obedience to parents
My son, obey your father’s commandment and do not abandon your mother’s teaching.
Children must obey their parents. Here it refers to fathers and mothers who teach their children the commandments of God. Parents who love God will not make meaningless demands on their children. As the children grow and study the word of God for themselves, they begin to recognize the wisdom behind the commands of their parents and the blessing that result when we live a life of obedience before God.
8. Bless the other generations
The family should value the contribution of all its members. A strong family appreciates all its members, be it children, grandchildren, grandparents, cousins, or uncles. They celebrate their success together, take care of themselves, encourage themselves and help each other in times of illness or need.
Grandparents are happy to see their children raise and educate their grandchildren with the same love and dedication that they did. The children also learn over time to appreciate the effort and sacrifice that their parents made to raise them in an environment full of love and stability.
9. Fight for unity
And, if a family is divided against itself, that family cannot stand. (Mark 3:25)
It is very sad to see families who only talk to fight or do not even talk. We must actively work in the family unit, spend time together not only at home but also go for walks, play sports or enjoy relaxing times together. The family must have common goals and dreams and celebrate when they are achieved. We glorify God when we strive to maintain peace and harmony in our family.
10. Caring and providing for ours
He who does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his own home, has denied faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
(1 Timothy 5: 8)
Within the family we must take care and provide for ours. We need to be alert to the needs of our family members and help them to the extent that is within our reach. We should not close our hearts to them and their real needs.
The basis of our faith is unconditional and sacrificial love, the love that God had for us in sending his Son Jesus to die in our place. Our day to day should reflect growth in this area showing that kind of love to others, especially our relatives.
11. Act wisely
A wise son will bring joy to the heart of his parents. He will not enter into unnecessary conflicts with them, honor them and bless them with his words and actions. He will cling to God, the source of wisdom, and make decisions that please Him and bless his parents.
The foolish son casts aside the teachings of his parents and causes them sadness and pain, especially the mother. Fool is the one who rejects the wisdom that comes from God and lives in rebellion against Him and against his parents.
12. Transmit the good path
Listen, children, the correction of a father; dispose to acquire intelligence. I give you good teachings, so do not abandon my instruction.
(Proverbs 4: 1-2)
Parents should take time to talk with their children, teach them to make good decisions and to follow the right path. Sometimes we expect children to behave in a way, but we don’t sit down and explain to them what we expect from them and why they should obey.
Children, for their part, must listen when their parents correct them and learn to make decisions that help them grow as human beings. Over the years they will remember the advice of their parents and will be grateful.
13. Fear of the Lord brings blessings
Blessed are all who fear the Lord, those who go their ways. What you win with your hands, that you will eat; You will enjoy bliss and prosperity. In your home, your wife will be like a vine full of grapes; Around your table, your children will be like olive stems. Such are the blessings of those who fear the Lord.
(Psalm 128: 1-4)
To fear the Lord is to give Him the reverence and respect He deserves. God values and rewards when we recognize his lordship over us and when we live within His will.
There are specific blessings for those who fear God and obey His commands. For example, the salary for your work will pay you and you will enjoy well-being. There is also promise of offspring, joy, and abundance. One of man’s most precious assets is his family, and a family that lives in love and harmony has no comparison.
14. Above all, love
A family without love will not overcome the challenges that life will bring. Family members must be willing to ask for forgiveness and acceptance, to believe in the goodness and love of others and to let go of those little manias or oddities of others that sometimes overwhelm us.
The only perfect love is that of God. We fill our lives with Him by letting His love flow through us and bless the whole family.
And we have come to know and believe that God loves us. God is love. He who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.
(1 John 4:16).