Although the Aries woman is fiercely independent, quick-witted and intelligent, the Aries man is even more so—in his opinion. And he will one day demand that it be acknowledged, no matter how much he has cajoled her, and himself, in the beginning. From the first opportunity that she beats him to the punch in a doorway, he will have a vague desire to teach her that in any contest between a Ram girl and a Ram boy, the Sun-sign man will emerge victorious. He must make up his mind to subdue her in this way at the beginning of the game, or he might as well take his leave. There may be some boisterous, tearful skirmishes before she understands this, but then she will blossom beautifully when she is allowed to become a woman. But she must be allowed to do so, not forced to do so. The ideal way to develop her femininity and to affirm his masculinity, however, is not to require a woman to give up her career or job in order to indulge his whims twenty-four hours a day. There are other ways. Unless a woman willingly sacrifices her pre-marriage occupation to warm his slippers or help him achieve his personal goals while forgetting hers (which sometimes happens), he is better off letting her stay out of the home and in touch with the active world. They will also be wise if they mutually agree to pay the rent or mortgage, food and utility bills out of his salary. Her money can provide them with the extras they will need to satisfy their often extravagant impulses.
Thus, the Aries boy will be firmly positioned in the picture of the male side of the team, which is important to make clear from the outset. What I mean is that it must be clearly stipulated that he is the MAN and she is the WOMAN. There will be plenty of opportunities to wonder how real control of the situation is distributed, and it would be absurd to complicate the problem by confusing male and female sexual roles. The Mars woman’s threat to masculinity begins the day she first strikes the Ram’s heart with the arrow of her sparkling hopes and emotions, so similar to his own, and will then follow him through all kinds of forms of cohabitation, including temporary geographic separation. She may try to dominate him by phone, mail or cell phone, if he does not have it within reach. Since the Aries man knows that no one has been able to dominate him since the day he was born, he may feel like breaking up with the first challenge from an Aries woman, but he would be wise to suppress his annoyance and instead try to tame her. Every Aries woman harbors a deep, hidden desire to be protected and defended by her man. In her secret daydreams, she is always the beautiful and sweet one, and he is the kind, tender and strong one, and hopefully he is if he doesn’t want his lady to turn into a frustrated Virginia Woolf, a result that is very likely and undesirable when a man gives in too much to please her, or pushes too hard to take control.
The former is unlikely to happen often, because the typical Ram is generally not one to give in. He is, however, likely to push hard. But he must understand that his lady’s desire to be conquered is purely romantic and sexual. It has little or nothing to do with personality or other areas of her life. The Mars male who keeps her ecstatically and emotionally satisfied during a walk on the beach, or in the privacy of the bedroom, will not usually be welcomed in the realm of non-romantic activities. She draws a sharp line between romantic submission and other forms of submission, and he had better understand this if he wants to keep her. He will be foolish to expect his lady to abide by his curfew, or obey his orders, and it will be downright dangerous for him to snub her. He may make all these mistakes until he learns that she will not be held in line or subjected to high-handed treatment, because she is cut from the same mold as him—a mold, of course, that was destroyed after the Aries Sun sign was forged. This is how the Rams believe the old adage was born: “They made you and then they threw the mold away.” Nothing could be more true. (Actually, the adage refers to the old potter’s mold, but it fits the Aries situation very well.)
The first thing the Aries girl will notice about the male version of herself is that he is an even more authoritarian, belligerent, and pugnacious individual than she is. Obviously… and fortunately, too. If she is intrigued by the Yin and Yang of it, a brief meditation on her favorite fairy tale may help her glimpse the truth. This woman could never hold back her tears, as a child, when she read the story of the Prince who bravely went into the woods to find his Princess and awaken her from her lonely slumber with the kiss of True Love. (Aries women invariably soften and melt inside at the thought of true love, for their idealism in matters of the heart is as eternal as spring itself.) But really, dear Aries girl, when you are honest with yourself, would it all have seemed so magical if the fiery and fearless Princess had bravely ridden into the woods on horseback to claim her Prince and rescue him from the wicked witch? The same meditation should be repeated about all the other fairy tales you still believe in and dream about every fortnight or so. Imagine the fastidious Cinderella, flushed and sweaty, trying to fit her Prince’s foot into a glass slipper to see if it fits properly. Mother Nature knows what she’s doing. The relationship between an Aries man and woman will have a better chance of success if she lets him steal the thunder of Mars from her.
Who knows why this one sounds better when it comes from him… as long as he doesn’t overdo it. Besides, since she’s no newcomer to the world of relentlessness either, she knows full well, if she stops to think about it, that the relentless façade the Aries guy puts on only serves to cover up his trembling Aries idealism, his desperate inner longing to feel needed… and noticed. Okay, so she must notice him when he shows up on his white steed, flaunting his Aries bossiness to hide his secret fear that no one will ever love him as much as he knows he needs to be loved (and this need is considerable)… unless he asks for it. This man can be very tender and sweet, despite his reckless independence, and he’s an expert at pretending he’s unscathed when he’s really been deeply hurt. She knows what it’s all about. Since they both know all these common Martian secrets, you’d think they could temper their outbursts, but it usually takes more than one painful lesson to teach them the futility of constant ego challenges. Often the ultimate lesson is the alarming experience they have when they are on the verge of losing each other, only to discover at the last moment, before the final disaster—like in the old silent movies—that it never pays to meet force with force. If she launches all her Martian offensives against her man’s enemies, and not against him, he will adore her for it, and will repay her with behavior as loyal as she has. This is certainly a fair trade. But someone has to start it.
At first it might seem that these two are very compatible sexually, because they both ask the same thing of love: that it be the physical-emotional fusion that poets describe as the epitome of the soulmate theory, which almost all Aries accept as an unassailable romantic dogma. Whether or not they use the term “soulmate,” Rams never doubt, when they love, that their union has not only been arranged in heaven but has also been programmed for life—and beyond. Before this potential pinnacle of harmony can materialize, however, they must overcome a serious obstacle: the instinctive, though almost always involuntary, selfishness of this Sun sign. Now, everything anyone wants to know about sex (whether or not they’ve been afraid to ask) rests on deliberate or involuntary selfishness, on using one’s partner for one’s own satisfaction. It’s not a question of how I can give him (or her) more pleasure, but how I can get more pleasure out of it. Sex-sex-sex. Drs. David Reuben, Masters and Johnson, Kinsey and Freud have explained it, verified it, researched it, analyzed it, watched it, photographed it, recorded it, listened to it, and written about it. But most men and women haven’t gotten the message yet. It would be a good idea for these Aries lovers to buy one of those big posters of a couple walking blissfully hand in hand, toward the mountains or the ocean or the cornfields, looking into each other’s eyes… with this inscription at the bottom: LOVE BEGINS WHEN ANOTHER’S NEEDS BECOME MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR OWN… and have it nailed up solidly beside the bed, next to the tapestry showing THE WEDDING OF ROMEO AND JULIET, which always hangs spiritually, if not materially, in every Aries bedroom. Romeo and Juliet were also soul mates… but they weren’t selfish. It’s not necessary for the Aries man and woman to end their honeymoon with a double suicide to demonstrate selflessness. It will suffice for both of them to show a few small signs of consideration.
When tenderness has erased such traces of childish selfishness, the way these two beings share love sexually can become an ecstatic exchange. For Aries, sex is made up of strange, barely understood contradictions, whereby their conjunction can be turned into an incredible combination of explosive desire, direct and penetrating, fiery and uncontrolled… with obsessive fragments of flowers in the rain, cool breezes and bright lightning. This is what happens when the powerful onslaught of Mars is calmed by expression through the naivety and wonder of the symbolic newborn of Aries. This creates a rare and surprising fusion between unbridled, tempestuous emotions… and the serenity of a placid, silent dawn. At the same time primal… and poetic. The alchemy of equal parts ravenous passion and fragile innocence is almost sacrosanct. Obviously, then, at its best, sexual union between two Rams can be an unforgettable experience. Even at its worst, it will be… interesting… What will she do if he flirts with other girls? Well, what would he do if she flirted with other men? Same thing. It would trigger an emotional outburst as tremendous as the hydrogen bomb… and as senseless and suicidal for love as the real hydrogen bomb is for our planet. Each Ram will let the other know unequivocally that he will not tolerate iron bars being put on his individual freedom. But it is a one-sided freedom, because each of them refuses to be strangled by jealousy, while at the same time being vehemently jealous of the other. Aries tend to covet this world and the next, and it takes several loud, emotional scenes to teach them that it is not possible to have it all. They must learn that love is not a game to be won, a battle to be fought, or a trophy to be won. It is a gift… to be given. Aries will demand many things from life, and they will get them. But no one, not even an Aries, can demand love.
The man will make it clear that she should not have the audacity to be jealous of him, but she had better not even look at another man. The woman will also make it clear that he should not smother her with his jealousy, but at the same time he had better not be caught looking at another woman with the slightest hint of interest. Do you know what this is called? Selfishness. If you are an Aries, it may not have occurred to you to interpret it that way, but think about it carefully. Rams can even become jealous if they observe that their loved one smiles in their dreams. Who is he (or she) dreaming about? And don’t think that many Aries partners haven’t asked this very question in the morning. “Well, apparently you had some very nice dreams last night. Was your astral body meeting your old friend?” And don’t think that the answer hasn’t been: “What I’m dreaming about is none of your business. Also, I noticed that when I kissed you good morning just now, you weren’t very eager to wake up. Were you practicing telepathy, half awake, with that girl you flirted with at the grocery store last week? The dialogue can vary, but such confrontations are quite possible when two Rams have promised to love, honor, and respect—but never obey! The solution is for these two people to practice their own telepathic communication and constantly reaffirm their undying devotion to each other, because although it may seem incongruous, what lies at the bottom of Aries’ jealousy is the fact that the symbolic newborn unconsciously fears losing love, while dealing with the conscious longing for personal freedom typical of Mars. If he forgets to warn her over the phone that he’ll be late for dinner, who better than she to understand this need to obey a sudden impulse without having a business meeting first?
If the winds of spring tempt him away from home, she may simultaneously feel called to follow her own lark-like cadence, and when they return to each other they can exchange magical stories of wonders they almost touched, of miracles they almost grasped. The Aries man who is racing through the world in pursuit of an exciting new goal he has just discovered is only being loyal to himself, and the Aries woman who faces the truth must admit that she could not really love a man who was not loyal to himself. The exciting new goal need not necessarily be a woman. Not unless she becomes a woman through unfounded jealousy. If she trusts him completely, she probably need not regret it, because the Aries man, more than any other Sun sign, almost always does exactly what is expected of him. And this applies in reverse as well. Between two lovers, what goes for him goes for her.
In a letter from an Aries who married an Aries, the woman describes so well the happiness that a double 1-1 Sun Sign vibration can bring (with some effort), here is an excerpt: “…and when I read aloud to my husband, who is also an Aries, the last paragraph of the section on the Aries woman in his book Sun Signs, where he says, ‘She may be a little impulsive, bossy, and independent… but you can’t have it all, can you? ’ he asked me, ‘What more could a man want? ’ My Aries partner understands me, and will always be able to hold on to me, even though I sometimes threaten to leave him when our Rams’ horns clash. That’s because, as your book says, when “I run into his arms with tears in my eyes, fleeing a dark and discouraging world,” he squeezes me tight, and comforts me, and he would never, ever say, “What have you done to deserve this?” like that damn Libra you wrote about in your book. I’d never realized before how important this is to me.” So you see, the Aries-Aries relationship can thrive. And neither of you need to sacrifice your courage, your initiative, or your Martian independence.
You must love yourself (which requires honesty and humor) before another can love you. If Aries man and Aries woman apply the golden rule equally, treating each other as they would like to be treated in return, provided their Sun-Moon aspects are not discordant, their relationship will provide the rewards of emotional maturity, plus the greatest of all gifts: the freedom to be completely authentic with each other, without fear of rejection. He may get carried away when they fight and threaten to leave her, but he is unlikely to do so. At least not for long. Once he has loved an Aries, all other women will seem dull to him. (Relaxed, perhaps, by comparison, but boring.) She feels the same way about him when she threatens to leave him and doesn’t mean it. But she must try to remember that he can chop wood, blast his way through granite mountains, fly airplanes, build houses, govern a city or a state or a nation, change tires, practice medicine or law, produce and direct movies, drive a tractor and a snowplow–at least as well as she can. It may no longer be true that a woman’s place is in the home. But it will forever be true that a woman’s place is in the heart of her man.
Aries Man Obsessed with Aries Woman
An Aries and Man an Aries Woman has the potential for a dynamic and exciting relationship. However, their success depends on their ability to manage their tempers, compromise, and nurture the partnership.
The compatibility between Aries men and women is stronger in friendship than in romantic relationships. While they share a passion for independence, adventure, and honesty, their impulsiveness and stubbornness can lead to fiery clashes in a love setting.
Aries men and women can adapt to each other, but a major challenge they face is tiring each other out. Monotony and routine can stifle their enthusiasm, as they both crave excitement and independence.
Sexually, they get along very well, both seeking constant stimulation. This shared passion is a strength in their connection.
The Aries woman is often characterized as sweet and sensitive, with intellectual depth. However, this intelligence can lead to challenges in the relationship, as the Aries man might feel threatened by it.
When two Aries come together in love, it can be explosive. Their competitive nature can make for a challenging love match. However, this shared trait also allows them to understand each other’s need for independence, similar to looking in a mirror.
At times, they can be possessive and clash like rams butting heads. Learning to collaborate and compromise, rather than compete, is crucial for a strong partnership.
Together, whether in love or any kind of relationship, they are a dynamic and fiery duo. Both driven individuals, they value personal freedom, which can make compromise difficult.
An Aries Man Aries Woman’s relationship, while challenging, is never boring. Their mutual understanding of each other’s need for independence fosters a vibrant, yet complex connection.
Aries Man and Aries Woman In Love
In my years as a relationship coach, one couple particularly exemplified the love compatibility between an Aries woman and an Aries man. Ana and Carlos, two young souls brimming with vibrant energy and passion, met during a motivational talk on love and personal growth.
From the moment they met, Ana and Carlos knew there was something special between them. They both carried a fiery, restless energy, and their connection was instant. They were like two fires that met and fueled each other, creating a whirlwind of passion that soon ignited their lives.
However, intense flames could also be dangerous. The dominant and competitive personality of both could generate constant conflicts and confrontations. On more than one occasion, when emotions were at their peak, their arguments became heated and uncontrolled.
As a coach, my job was to help this couple channel their energy and find balance. I taught them effective communication techniques, empathy and active listening so that they could resolve conflicts constructively instead of getting carried away by impulsiveness.
Over time, Ana and Carlos began to understand that, although their intensity could cause clashes, it was also what united them and gave life to their relationship. They learned to embrace their inner fire and use each other as catalysts for growth and motivation.
The relationship between an Aries woman and an Aries man is a constant challenge, but also an inexhaustible source of love and passion. As Ana and Carlos applied the tools I provided them, they managed to keep their spark lit without allowing themselves to be consumed by the fire that characterized them.
Today, Ana and Carlos are still together, nurturing their love through a perfect combination of intensity and understanding. Their story is living proof that when two Aries hearts collide, the result can be a passionate love, full of energy and mutual growth.
Problems and Solutions
The forecast suggests the romantic connection between Aries men and Aries women will be a rollercoaster ride with highs and lows. Both partners may resist changing their ingrained behaviors, which can be linked to their self-esteem and their tendency to be combative and argumentative. However, they are both genuine and honest in their interactions, both with each other and themselves. They exude passion, positive energy, and remarkable drive, often achieving great things in life. They are motivated and willing to put in the extra effort to succeed, for themselves and others.
Interestingly, Mars, the planet associated with passion and drive, plays a role in their bond. Yet, the constant bickering might stem from ego clashes they are unaware of. The key for this couple lies in avoiding excessive hostility and competition. Striking a healthy balance will preserve the relationship’s vibrancy without sacrificing its intensity.
Being acknowledged by others is particularly motivating for Aries individuals, helping them overcome negativity. The compatibility between an Aries man and woman can be likened to a roller coaster ride, filled with challenges and resilience. This pairing has the potential to overcome obstacles, reinvent themselves, and reach a deeper level of connection, exploration, and fulfillment.
How to improve the relationship?
While the horoscope suggests a limited level of romantic compatibility between Aries men and women, their bond is often strong in friendship. This dynamic can create a foundation for a fulfilling relationship, but one susceptible to monotony and routine.
To foster lasting love, continuous engagement is crucial. This can involve both small, daily adjustments and larger, long-term changes.
Small changes can be as simple as switching movie genres (action to romance or foreign films) or trying new activities (reading and discussing books instead of watching movies). These seemingly insignificant details can significantly impact the overall mood and dynamism of the relationship.
Long-term changes might involve choosing non-traditional vacation destinations, redecorating your living space, or even starting a small garden together. These shared experiences can be tremendously rewarding and contribute to a deeper connection.
Remember, even seemingly minor efforts can make a significant difference in maintaining a vibrant and fulfilling relationship.
Aries Man and Aries Woman In Bed Sexually
Maintaining novelty in the bedroom is also critical. While Aries signs have initial sexual compatibility, routine can dampen the excitement. Discussing sexual preferences, fantasies, and surprises can revitalize the relationship.
It’s important to remember that men and women often approach intimacy differently. What may be sexually stimulating for one may not be for the other. Discovering what excites and fulfills each other sexually is key to maintaining a satisfying connection.
Building rapport with each other’s family and friends is another crucial aspect. Acceptance from your partner’s circle can be remarkably beneficial, even beyond immediate awareness. Gaining their trust fosters a support system, allowing them to identify potential issues and offer guidance. Remember, they may have a deeper understanding of your partner than you do at this stage in the relationship.
Finally, understanding the Aries woman’s sensitivity and intelligence is key. The Aries man should treat her with respect and consideration for her emotional side, while also encouraging her intellectual pursuits to leverage her intelligence.
Aries Man and Aries Woman Bond In general
The astrological combination of Aries Man Aries Woman fosters a special compatibility in friendship, but navigating a stable love relationship can present difficulties. While adaptable to each other, their biggest challenge lies in their mutual dislike for monotony and routine, which can lead to boredom and fatigue.
However, their sexual chemistry is undeniable and fueled by the shared passion and energy inherent to the Aries sign.
It’s important to note that the Aries woman is characterized by sweetness, sensitivity, and intelligence that can sometimes surpass the Aries man’s. This dynamic, while potentially positive, can lead to challenges and tensions within the relationship if the man feels threatened by her intelligence.
It’s like looking in a mirror
They understand and value each other’s need for independence, mirroring their own strong independent spirit. This shared trait, while positive, can also lead to excessive competition and conflict. Learning to collaborate and finding balance is crucial, replacing unhealthy competition with cooperation.
Overall, an Aries Man Aries Woman relationship thrives on its dynamic nature and passion, offering a connection that is never boring. However, navigating commitment can be challenging due to their desire to be “first” and prioritize their individual freedoms.
In my experience as a couples therapist, I’ve observed that an Aries Man Aries Woman relationship can be both intense and exciting, but requires continuous effort from both partners to maintain balance and stability. Open and honest communication, along with constructive expression of needs and emotions, is crucial to avoid unnecessary conflicts. With patience, understanding, and respect, an Aries Man Aries Woman relationship can blossom into something incredibly powerful and rewarding.
Where Do They Match?
When two Aries individuals come together, a potent energy of passion and fire is ignited. Both signs share ambitious and bold personalities, creating a connection that can be electrifying or lead to clashes of egos.
Loyalty is a cornerstone of the Aries character, making finding a partner who shares this value a treasured gift. However, be aware that both partners might exhibit traces of paranoia and mistrust, requiring consistent effort to build a foundation of mutual trust.
Both Aries individuals have an inherent need to be cherished and appreciated, a need that can be largely fulfilled when partners understand and respond to each other’s desires. When both actively strive to meet each other’s needs, the relationship can blossom into a haven of love and care.
However, it’s crucial to remember that every relationship is unique, with individual experiences influencing its success. As an astrological relationship therapist, I’ve witnessed the Aries Man Aries Woman combination thrive when both partners are committed to working on their relationship and overcoming challenges. Open and honest communication, mutual respect, and a dedication to maintaining the spark of passion are key to success.
Where Do They Collide?
One potential challenge in an Aries Man Aries Woman relationship arises when both partners experience anger simultaneously. This can lead to conflicting and potentially explosive situations. It’s crucial to approach such situations with caution and employ healthy conflict resolution strategies.
Both Aries individuals often exhibit competitive tendencies and might be prone to impulsive spending. Considering these potential pitfalls, seeking professional guidance from a financial advisor can be highly beneficial. An outside perspective can help establish healthy financial habits and prevent future conflicts related to money.
Striking a healthy balance between the relationship and individual needs is essential. While cherishing your partner, neglecting your personal connections, such as friends and family, can ultimately be detrimental. Maintaining a healthy social circle outside the relationship can strengthen the bond within it by avoiding isolation and fostering mutual respect for independence.
In my experience as a therapist, I’ve observed that achieving a healthy balance is key to any successful relationship. This balance involves acknowledging and respecting both individual needs and the needs of the relationship as a whole.
Allowing for personal space and time while cultivating and maintaining external connections contributes significantly to a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship in the long run. Working together, you can develop a deeper understanding of these dynamics and continue to strengthen your bond.
Fire signs
The connection between two fire signs can ignite quickly, igniting an intense and passionate relationship. However, this passion can also become unruly, leading to explosive arguments. It’s essential to remember that fire thrives on freedom, similar to fire signs. Therefore, finding a balance between individuality and connection is crucial for the relationship’s success.
Astrology recognizes four elements: fire, earth, air, and water. Each element plays a significant role in our lives and relationships. While being with someone who shares your element fosters comfort and familiarity, there’s a risk of falling into a monotonous routine. While differences between signs can present challenges, they also offer opportunities for growth.
As a couple who share the same element, avoiding a routine or becoming overly competitive is vital. Spending time with individuals from other elements can help balance the relationship’s energy. An earth sign friend or family member can bring a grounding influence, while an air sign can be a reminder to pause before acting impulsively. A water sign can facilitate connecting with the emotional aspects of the relationship.
In essence, a relationship between two fire signs can be intense and passionate, but it requires a delicate balance between connection and individuality. While differences present challenges, they also offer opportunities for growth. Engaging with individuals from other elements can contribute significantly to maintaining a balanced and fulfilling relationship.
Cardinal signs
In astrology, Aries falls under the “cardinal” sign category. This translates to strong leadership qualities, a touch of stubbornness, and a desire to be first in various aspects of life. In a loving relationship, this can lead to the need for consistent effort towards commitment and mutual understanding. However, once respect becomes the foundation, you have the potential to become a fascinating couple, capable of facing any challenge or even building an empire together.
It’s important to note that Aries individuals often possess sophistication and a strong desire for recognition. They appreciate dressing well and attracting attention. In an Aries Man Aries Woman romantic relationship, impressing each other becomes a natural part of the courtship ritual, a characteristic shared by all cardinal signs.
To maintain harmony in this relationship, consider taking turns initiating new experiences. Surprise each other with well-chosen getaways or exciting plans. This approach will help keep the spark alive and prevent the relationship from falling into a monotonous routine.
Another effective strategy to minimize conflicts is to adopt a co-leadership approach. One partner can take the initiative and lead for a certain period, then graciously pass the reins to the other. This avoids constant competition and encourages collaboration and mutual support.
Furthermore, consider embarking on shared projects where both individuals can showcase their strengths and shine in their own unique ways. By leveraging each other’s talents and abilities, you can build something truly remarkable together.
These suggestions, based on astrological insights, aim to improve the relationship between an Aries man and woman. However, remember that every couple is unique. Ultimately, love, honesty, open communication, and mutual respect remain the most valuable foundations for any successful relationship.